"Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands........" 1 Thessalonians 4:11

Sunday, February 15, 2026

Stop Caring

 


We waste so much of ourselves on things that don't matter and we don't realize this until we face the end of our lives, it is usually only then that we make decisions of what we let go and of what we hang onto.
We think about the things we wish we had done differently. 
and at the end , none of this is what really matters in what we want..........
So....starting now......

1. Stop caring about always being right. Truth does matter, but not when small arguments create large silences and robs you of your peace. 
2. Stop caring about being understood. Do not exhaust your energy on people who form wrong opinions of you. 
3. Stop caring about how your body looks. Don't torture yourself over on whether you look acceptable to others.
4. Stop caring about keeping up with world topics. Not everything requires your attention and not everything is urgent. Pick what you care about and pay attention to that and let the rest go. 
5. Stop caring about old grudges. Don't hang on to resentments. Get rid of mental lists of the wrongs people have done to you in the past. Forgive and let go. 
6. Stop caring about what your adult children think of your choices. You have raised your children, sacrificed for them, worried for them. They are now grown, and maybe sometimes they try to control your choices of out of worry and concern for your well being.  You can still make your own judgement about your own life.
7.Stop caring about not being productive. You have worked, you have lived, it is okay to rest. 

All in all, stop caring too much for the wrong things for too long, giving precious energy to battles that do not matter, 
to appearances that fade, to grudges that only poison ourselves, 
to opinions of people who barely know us,
to an endless treadmill of keeping up with current issues, feeling guilty for not being productive.......


At the end,  we really want peace, to have those we love around us, to know that our life meant something to someone and to not feel that we had wasted it.
We do not have to wait until we are dying to start letting go. 
Don't waste your energy, your attention, and your heart to that which  is going to something that does not deserve it.
Let it go, stop caring about it,  save  yourself for the things that will still matter in the end. 
Life is short.
***(this is a narrative of a video of an elderly lady whose thoughts touched my thinking about how I want to live the rest of my life)
I hope you find this inspiring on how you want to spend the last precious years of your life.   


18 comments:

Daisy Debs said...

Totally agree ! .....but above all ...... be kind 💐🕊️🙏🏻

Granny Marigold said...

I couldn't agree more with this. So many things we worry about and in the end worrying ( and caring) don't affect the outcome.

Beatrice P. Boyd said...

Kathleen, this was a wonderful posts because it contained so many of the things most of us tend to over-stress about thus robbing us of enjoying life, thank you.

Bonnie K said...

Wise words from a wise person. Life is short enjoy it while you can.

Donna said...

It's perfect...
hugs
Donna

Donna said...

Stealing this! People need to read this...SO true!
hugs
Donna

Leigh said...

This is excellent advice; things we need to be frequently reminded about. I wonder how much of our lives is spent caring about things we have no control over. Better to strive to seek contentment.

Marie Smith said...

Wisdom about life is hard to achieve and harder to live. Great post.

Prims By The Water said...

So totally agree with this. Janice

Barwitzki said...

Wonderfully summarized.
Point 5 is probably one of the most difficult.
Bring joy into your life and into the lives of others.
Hugs and best wishes

Faith said...

This touched me, it is hard, isn't to not care. I guess the key is "not having control" that is the point. Lifelong learning alot of the things the wrong way. We must unlearn as we get older, also difficult. As Leigh says above, seek contentment. How do we do this? Something for me to ponder on.

Debra said...

This is so good-I know I will come back to this and take notes- because I really need this advice. Thank you.

Elaine/Muddling Through said...

I like it a lot, and it is very good advice. As my sister tells me often, "it's none of my business what other people think of me."

Anonymous said...

We are planning to go to Borden Co. soon. Your scenery looks about like where we are going!

Bonnie K said...

Very true! I always laugh at my mistakes. It helps my students and staff see that it is ok to make them. Just learn from them.

Brenda Kay Ledford said...

I agree 100%. Great list of things we don't need to care about. Glad you shared this advise with us.

Rose said...

This is all so true, but some of it hard to do.

Daisy Debs said...

I love this post . I keep coming back to it , to read it again . It is a good meditation for me . I love your blog top banner picture with the beautiful rainbow . Have a blessed and restful Sunday . love Debbie 🤍💐🕊️ x